.:MY JEHOVAH’S WITNESS BOYFRIEND LEFT ME TO RETURN TO THE KINGDOM HALL. I Am Hurt, What Do I Do Now?
“I was dating someone who converted to the Jehovah Witness last year. He found out later that there were a lot of things that the Kingdom Hall did not explain to him until after he got baptized. On the side, he was still secretly seeing me and hanging out with me. Other Jehovah’s Witness at the Hall saw his car over at my place and they reported it to the elder. Then, the elder got involved and warned him that he needed to break up with me.
He told me privately that he was going to leave the Watchtower organization because he didn’t agree with a lot of the things that were going on there. So, he asked me to go online and print out information that would prove them wrong. When I showed him the information that they are a cult, he took it to the elder who spoke with him for 5 hours! When he came back to talk to me, he had a change of heart and said that he was going to stay with the Kingdom Hall. He said that the elder explained away everything I told him about and he warned him not to believe everything he reads on the Internet. He then told him that he needs to get rid of his past which was me. I am so hurt how he lead me on all this time, had me thinking that we were going to be together and how he was going to leave the Hall. So now when I speak with him, he’s cold, brief and very, very short and doesn’t have much to say to me any more. I am so hurt, I feel like I’ve wasted so much time and had been mislead from all the lies he told me. I don’t know what else to do.”
We are sorry for what you are going through, but this is very common with Jehovah’s Witnesses and even Ex-Jehovah’s Witnesses. Unless the cult mind control programming is broken, they will snap back to the Jehovah’s Witness life, if given enough pressure from Jehovah’s Witness family members, friends and elders. The programming kicks in and their personality changes. Your friend is victim of this cult programming and this is what makes it so dangerous. They don’t even realize it. It might help to understand that your boyfriend likely didn’t mean to lead you on, but he is split between what his heart tells him and what the cult mind-control programming is telling him.
In the end, it is this programming that shuts his heart down and makes him change. Dear friend, as much as it hurts, I really think you were spared a much deeper heart-ache. We can’t tell you just how many people we hear from who walked into marriage with an Ex-Jehovah’s Witness who told them that they were leaving the Kingdom Hall “for good” only to return a year or two later into the marriage once the spouse’s Jehovah’s Witness family members and elders got a hold of them or children came along.
If the Jehovah’s Witness hasn’t been deprogrammed, it is only a matter of time before he will return. The only way for him to get free in his mind is to submerse himself into Bible study (apart from the Jehovah’s Witness literature) and Ex-Jehovah’s Witness books and online material like our “Christian Conversations” series and “Questions for Jehovah’s Witnesses” that walk a person through Jehovah’s Witness programming on key issues and breaks the “we are the truth” mindset. See these links:
Until that happens, you can forget about him leaving this cult for good. It just won’t happen. Those mental programming ties must broken with Biblical truth and factual documentation. For now, you need to get healing from this relationship and renew your relationship with God so that He can give you the discernment not to be taken in your next relationship. We highly recommend that you check out our online support group for people who have loved ones in the Jehovah’s Witnesses. You will get a lot of encouragement to help you in the healing process here on our site:
And if your former boyfriend changes his mind later and comes back to you, we recommend these links on our site for you to read and study:
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