Melissa – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

MELISSA – FROM HURTING TO HEALING

Twice a month, Melissa shares her experiences leaving the Jehovah’s Witness religion after being raised in the Watchtower. Her “Hurting to Healing” broadcast on Blogtalk’s Healing X Outreach channel offers hope to those going through the process of leaving Jehovah’s Witnesses and reaching loved-ones still involved in this religion.

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Why did the Jehovah’s stop being my friends when I stopped studying with them?

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.:WHY DID THE JEHOVAH’S WITNESSES STOP BEING MY FRIENDS WHEN I STOPPED STUDYING WITH THEM?

“I have been studying with Jehovah’s Witnesses for a year and attending meetings.  When I decided to stop studying for a while, all those friends are now no longer there.  I had stopped studying because I found it hard to believe that the Jehovah’s Witnesses are the only true religion.  I also couldn’t understand why they wanted me to take my 11-year old son out of Karate and not to prepare him for college.  I know they want him to serve Jehovah, but he also lives with his dad who is Catholic.  I miss my friends, but then again, they are only friends if I attend the Kingdom Hall.  I am so confused!” Continue reading “Why did the Jehovah’s stop being my friends when I stopped studying with them?”

Our Christian daughter is dating a Jehovah’s Witness and converting to that religion. What advice can you give us?

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“We raised our daughter in a Christian home but now at 18 years old, she has begun to date a Jehovah’s Witness. He has impressed her with his ‘Bible knowledge’ and has convinced her to ‘study’ his religion with one of the ladies from his Kingdom Hall.

We asked her if she would be willing to check this religion out before she gets into it.  She claims that she has already checked it out because she is on chapter eight of the book they are “studying” with her.  When we tried to give her your website article: I’M STUDYING WITH JEHOVAH’S WITNESSES. WHAT DO I NEED TO KNOW BEFORE I GET BAPTIZED?, she threw it back in our face saying that she won’t read it because it is ‘apostate’ information. We don’t know what to do! It is like she already has her mind made up and doesn’t care what we present to her.  Right now, we feel it is all about the boy.  She is mad at us because she thinks we are trying to stand in the way of her ‘true love.’  She is doing whatever it takes to get this guy. He is almost 20 years old, not in school and doesn’t even have a job.  What a loser!  Here she is a senior in high school with straight A’s, in advanced placement classes, combined with community college classes, but none of that matters to her.  She is willing to throw all this away to be with this guy. What can we do?”

OUR RESPONSE:

Dear friend,

We feel for you in this situation with your daughter. Unfortunately, what happened to your daughter is not that uncommon.  The teenage daughter filled with unstable hormones and emotional insecurities meets a handsome, young Jehovah’s Witness man who is able to dazzle her with his confident persona and “Bible knowledge.”  Before you know it, your daughter is hooked! Continue reading “Our Christian daughter is dating a Jehovah’s Witness and converting to that religion. What advice can you give us?”

I’m Dating A Jehovah’s Witness. How Can I Witness to Him?

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I’M DATING A JEHOVAH’S WITNESS. HOW CAN I HELP HIM FIND THE TRUTH?

“I am a Christian but my boyfriend was raised as a Jehovah’s Witness.  He was disfellowshipped from the Jehovah’s Witnesses several years ago and was not a part of this religion when we met and started dating a year ago.

For the past year, he has been attending a small group Bible study with me and my friends from church.  However, he still holds onto many of the beliefs he was raised with and in the last six weeks, his friends and family have influenced him to go back to the meetings at the Kingdom Hall. He is now trying to get reinstated and has even asked me to “study” with his mom.  I am scared about what this religion will do to our relationship and I feel like I am losing the man I love.  It is truly a spiritual battle.  He is no longer attending my church’s small group Bible studies and our religious discussions have become more intense.  How can I witness to him about my faith and help him find the truth in Christ without arguing and destroying our relationship?” Continue reading “I’m Dating A Jehovah’s Witness. How Can I Witness to Him?”

My Jehovah’s Witness girlfriend stopped dating me. What can I do?

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“I read your website article where you discussed the pros and cons of a relationship with a Jehovah’s Witness. I agree with you that the Bible warns that a Christian should not marry outside of the Christian faith. However, I was raised Catholic and I have been dating a lady who was also raised Catholic but who had converted along with her parents to the Jehovah’s Witnesses several years ago.  Now, my girlfriend and I have been in love with each other for the past several years, but the principles and rules of her Jehovah’s Witness religion and her parents are against our relationship. They think that I am not a believer in Jehovah because I am Catholic, and their religion dictates that she cannot marry outside of the Jehovah’s Witness faith. Continue reading “My Jehovah’s Witness girlfriend stopped dating me. What can I do?”

I’m Studying with Jehovah’s Witnesses. What Do I Need to Know?

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I’ve been studying with Jehovah’s Witnesses and I think what they say makes a lot of sense, but before I get baptized, I want to make sure they are ‘the Truth.’ What do you have to say about them?”

OUR RESPONSE:

Dear friend,

Your desire to critically examine the religion of Jehovah’s Witnesses before becoming involved is commendable. We appreciate the opportunity to share with you some of the research we have compiled and hope you will find it helpful as you determine whether you should get involved with the Watchtower organization. While most individual Jehovah’s Witnesses are nice people, we have found that the Watchtower organization itself is not honest in its presentation of “the Truth.” Not only is the Bible Jehovah’s Witnesses use, the New World Translation (NWT) distorted, but many of the doctrines they teach do not line up with Scripture. (For more information, click examples of Watchtower lies and cover-ups, click errors in the Watchtower NWT, and click here for a list of doctrinal errors) Continue reading “I’m Studying with Jehovah’s Witnesses. What Do I Need to Know?”

Preparing Ex-Jehovah’s Witnesses for Child Custody

Anne Marie.:I’M FIGHTING MY JEHOVAH’S WITNESS EX-SPOUSE FOR CHILD CUSTODY. Do You Have Any Literature I Can Present to the Court to Help My Case?

My wife started studying with Jehovah’s Witnesses five years ago and recently left me, taking our children with her. The Jehovah’s Witnesses are not encouraging her to go back to me even though according to their policies, she doesn’t have Scriptural grounds for a divorce because there was no fornication involved. She filed for divorce and is dragging me into a custody battle over our children. Watchtower lawyers are assisting her free of charge while I am spending thousands of dollarswith a lawyer who knows little to nothing of how destructive and deceptive the Jehovah’s Witnesses are. I am worried that if she gains full custody of our children, the Jehovah’s Witness belief system will alienate them from me, just as it did to my now ex-wife.

For example, the other day, my five-year old daughter told me that she is afraid that I will ‘die’ when Armageddon comes because I am not a Jehovah’s Witness. When I asked her where she got this idea, she told me that the people at the Kingdom Hall have been telling her that I am ‘bad’ because I ‘don’t serve Jehovah’ and that only Jehovah’s Witnesses will be ‘saved’ when Jehovah kills all the ‘bad’ people at the end of this system. I am concerned how being exposed to this kind of teaching will affect my relationship with my kids, and I think this religion is indeed a destructive cult. Do you have any literature that I can present to the court to help me show the dangers of this religion and gain legal custody of our children?Continue reading “Preparing Ex-Jehovah’s Witnesses for Child Custody”

I was disfellowshipped. Does Jehovah God hate me?

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.: I WAS DISFELLOWSHIPPED. DOES JEHOVAH GOD HATE ME?

I was disfellowshipped from Jehovah’s Witnesses. No one will talk to me at the Kingdom Hall. I am being shunned by my family and the only friends I have ever known.  I feel all alone. Does Jehovah God hate me too?”

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Dear friend,

My name is Anne Marie, and I can tell you with a resounding, NO! Jehovah God does not “hate” you!  It was not He who disfellowshipped you; it was fleshly men, and they are not the same thing.  Jehovah knows what you are going through… better than anyone else.  He knows your confusion, your despair, and your pain. Continue reading “I was disfellowshipped. Does Jehovah God hate me?”

Angie – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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I grew up in a very dysfunctional family. My mother was a teenage runaway that used prostitution to live and support her addictions. My father is not known. Almost immediately after birth, the state placed me with my maternal grandmother. As I grew older I realized the things I had heard about my mother started close to home. My grandmother and other family also had drug and alcohol addictions. I desperately craved normalcy. I hadn’t been brought up in church, but we always had a Bible around the house, so I tried to “be good” by reading it. Continue reading “Angie – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Tammie – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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Raised by Jehovah’s Witness parents (her father an elder), Tammie was confident she was in the only true religion. Pioneering in her 30’s (spending at least 90 hours per month), she reported an average of 10 “Bible studies” and placed 100’s of Watchtower magazines and books monthly. As a skilled debator, Tammie gave frequent “talks” and “demonstrations” at Theocratic Ministry School from age 7. She was considered the model “Witness” by her family and friends, until the conditional love she had embraced failed and everything in her life fell apart. Only in Christ, did Tammie find what she had been looking for. Continue reading “Tammie – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Pam – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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I was supposed to be the little boy who’d save my parents marriage, but by the time I was born, my dad had moved 2000 miles away and never came back.  My mom remarried when I was 3, but divorced him after 6 months, after discovering he was homosexual.  By then, she was easy prey for her 4 younger sisters who convinced her to join them in becoming Jehovah’s Witnesses.

I loved my mom a lot as a small child, but lost respect for her as I watched her allow this organization to rule our lives, forbidding everything from celebrating birthdays and Christmas to receiving a life-saving blood transfusion.  Every word we were or were not allowed to say was carefully dictated, and constantly changing.  We first called our gatherings “classes,” but later we were ordered to refer to them only as “meetings.”  We were required to know the latest terminology, and it always changed.  The person in charge of the congregation went from being a “Congregation Servant” to an “Overseer” to—I think today—an “Elder.”  We’d been instructed to call them the “Judicial Committee.”   This struck terror in my heart, as I believed they were appointed by Jehovah Himself, Who, I believed, was terribly harsh and demanding. Continue reading “Pam – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Jason – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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.:THE TESTIMONY OF JASON – How God Rescued Me and My Family

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My story is similar to many ex-Witnesses. My father attended the Pentecostal church and revivalist meetings in and around the Boston area in rural Lincolnshire England during the 1960’s. My mother was christened into the Anglican Church although she was not active there. When I was born in 1971, my father and mother did not attend church but still had an inner love of God.

In the early 1970’s, my uncle Derrick (who was married to my father’s sister) began a study with the Jehovah’s Witnesses from the Horncastle Congregation. He had been raised a Catholic, but with the help of the Witnesses, quickly accepted the Watchtower Society’s theology. In a short time, he was converted and baptised.  My uncle was articulate in his defense of Watchtower doctrine and he would tie my dad up in knots with biblical quotes. My uncle as a new convert was very zealous. However, he failed to convince his wife and after the 1975 failed Watchtower prophecy about the end times, he became inactive. As the years went by, he became more and more depressed, feeling he had let God down (a common trait in those who drift away from the organisation). Continue reading “Jason – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

David H. – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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.:THE TESTIMONY OF DAVID H

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I was born in London, England in 1947. My mother and father had both been badly injured during the second World War and were raising us in post War Britain. I had a younger brother and sister and can remember our early life together as being warm and loving as our mother was a wonderful woman—even though she had lost a leg in the final part of the War.

During the early 1950s our lives changed suddenly when two Jehovah’s Witnesses called at our door and told my dad why the World was in such a terrible mess. They explained that it was not God who caused all the Wars—but Satan the Devil. They started a Bible Study with my parents and within 6 months, they were baptized.

From that moment on, my dad became a fanatical preacher of the Watchtower message. Before the War, my dad had been a nominal Catholic and my mother an Anglican, so I had been christened in both churches and then baptized as a Jehovah’s Witness when I was only seven years old. Continue reading “David H. – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Chris S – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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It was in 1967 when my family started associating with Jehovah’s Witnesses. My mother had had me Christened in the United Church in June of 1963 when I was only six months old, but at four years old, she started studying with Jehovah’s Witnesses. So, other than the two or three times when I went to United Church Sunday School, Jehovah’s Witnesses were the only religion I knew growing up. I was surprised to learn that my grandmother’s family had been associated with them since the late 1800’s. By 1968 my father also started studying to become a Jehovah’s Witness, and in 1971, he underwent water baptism as a sign of his devotion to the organization. Continue reading “Chris S – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Ashton – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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I was born and raised as a third generation Jehovah’s Witness.  My biological mother was only 14 years old.  Her father, my grandfather, said he could not raise another baby—especially one without a father—without any help.  He was already a single father trying to raise 3 children alone.  His wife, my grandmother, was institutionalized; so my biological mother was forced to give me up for adoption. Continue reading “Ashton – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Anne Marie – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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.: ANNE MARIE – Disfellowshipped but Saved by Jehovah!

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I was that young and pretty sister you might have seen at the Kingdom Hall. You know, the one with “all those kids.” The one who struggled to raise her children in “The Truth” alone. The one who was rarely considered as “wife material” because she was “damaged goods.” After all, “No one is going to want you and all your burdens!” as it was put to me by a well-meaning pioneer sister.

Like many of you, I was raised from a tender age to be a Jehovah’s Witness. I truly loved Jehovah all my life. I loved my Brothers and Sisters, and I truly believed that IT (the Watchtower Organization) was “THE Truth.” I grew up in San Francisco, during the Vietnam War, the Black Panthers, riots, protests, and the “Hippie” movement, and I became disillusioned with “the truth,” leaving it at age fifteen, since I believed Jehovah God was going to “kill me anyway” because I would never be “good enough.”  Also, I was sick of the gossip, the judgments, and the fear of Armageddon…which was always “just around the corner.” But pregnant with my fourth child at nineteen, (after my children’s father had walked out on us in late 1974), the Jehovah’s Witnesses asked me, “How can you let your children die just because you don’t want to live up to Jehovah’s righteous requirements? Do you REALLY want your children’s blood on your hands?” Continue reading “Anne Marie – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Carlene – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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I grew up as a Lutheran. I gradually stopped attending church in my teens. I liked reading my bible, but didn’t feel that church services answered my bible questions.

At age 21, I dated my future husband whose mother had just become a Jehovah’s Witness. She gave me the “Live forever” book. I was thrilled when I thought that all my bible questions had been answered in that book.  I then started studying with the Jehovah’s Witnesses.

After being married, my husband and I in 1972 were baptized. I wanted to be devoted to doing Jehovah’s preaching work. We eagerly set aside material things and career opportunities to go out in the ministry as much as possible since we needed to warn others that the end was coming soon (1974 or 1975).

My family opposed my religious move greatly, but I was warned ahead of time to not let them make me stumble. I had to cut off all former friendships.  I felt that in time, they would learn the “truth” also.  So, I was an active Jehovah’s Witness publisher from 1972-1993 and faithfully spent time in the door to door ministry. I was auxiliary pioneering and taking part in the weekly meetings. Continue reading “Carlene – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Betty – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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I come from a traditional Southern Baptist family. Both of my parents were Baptist as well as their ancestors before them.  My great grandfather on my dad’s side was a preacher and my dad grew up in a large family with three sisters and two brothers, but this Baptist family tradition changed during WWII.  When my dad returned home from fighting in the war, he discovered that his parents and sisters had converted to the Jehovah’s Witnesses.  However, he and his brothers remained Baptist.

To say the least, my dad was shocked, confused, and angry. Can you imagine what it must have been like for him to return home from war to find that everything his family believed in, no longer existed? His family’s religious beliefs were gone, holidays and birthdays were no longer celebrated, in addition to the confusion and hurt feelings of all of these changes. Needless to say, this spilt in our family’s religion caused some major issues, some of which still exist today. Continue reading “Betty – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Allison – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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.: THE TESTIMONY OF ALLISON

My parents raised me as a Jehovah’s Witness.  As early as four years old, I can remember attending the meetings and going out in field service door to door.  Our family times consisted of weekly Bible studies using the publications of the Watchtower Society.  Continue reading “Allison – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Brenda – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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I experienced quite a normal, blissful childhood until the age of nine when my mother was visited one day by two Jehovah’s Witnesses.  At first, I thought it was fun to get some attention from “the friends,” as they called themselves.  Since I had grown up on a very isolated farm in rural Pennsylvania, anything new coming our way was welcomed, and they seemed so benign, so polite, so well dressed.

After a while, I realized how much destruction the Watchtower organization could levy.  My mom, a Methodist Sunday school teacher at the time, sat me down very soon after beginning a home “Bible” study with Jehovah’s Witnesses, and in one giant swoop she told me I would have to give up all my holidays, all my friends, my birthday, and all our relatives.  My life up until then revolved around play-time with my cousins from literally sunrise to sunset; so this was quite a devastating change in my young life!  Having no choice to do otherwise, I obliged.  For the next 9 years, I grew up without a single girlfriend and lived a solitary life.  I call it my “nine-year grounding”—despite good behavior. Continue reading “Brenda – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”