Our Christian daughter is dating a Jehovah’s Witness and converting to that religion. What advice can you give us?

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“We raised our daughter in a Christian home but now at 18 years old, she has begun to date a Jehovah’s Witness. He has impressed her with his ‘Bible knowledge’ and has convinced her to ‘study’ his religion with one of the ladies from his Kingdom Hall.

We asked her if she would be willing to check this religion out before she gets into it.  She claims that she has already checked it out because she is on chapter eight of the book they are “studying” with her.  When we tried to give her your website article: I’M STUDYING WITH JEHOVAH’S WITNESSES. WHAT DO I NEED TO KNOW BEFORE I GET BAPTIZED?, she threw it back in our face saying that she won’t read it because it is ‘apostate’ information. We don’t know what to do! It is like she already has her mind made up and doesn’t care what we present to her.  Right now, we feel it is all about the boy.  She is mad at us because she thinks we are trying to stand in the way of her ‘true love.’  She is doing whatever it takes to get this guy. He is almost 20 years old, not in school and doesn’t even have a job.  What a loser!  Here she is a senior in high school with straight A’s, in advanced placement classes, combined with community college classes, but none of that matters to her.  She is willing to throw all this away to be with this guy. What can we do?”

OUR RESPONSE:

Dear friend,

We feel for you in this situation with your daughter. Unfortunately, what happened to your daughter is not that uncommon.  The teenage daughter filled with unstable hormones and emotional insecurities meets a handsome, young Jehovah’s Witness man who is able to dazzle her with his confident persona and “Bible knowledge.”  Before you know it, your daughter is hooked! Continue reading “Our Christian daughter is dating a Jehovah’s Witness and converting to that religion. What advice can you give us?”

I’m Dating A Jehovah’s Witness. How Can I Witness to Him?

Marriage and Dating

I’M DATING A JEHOVAH’S WITNESS. HOW CAN I HELP HIM FIND THE TRUTH?

“I am a Christian but my boyfriend was raised as a Jehovah’s Witness.  He was disfellowshipped from the Jehovah’s Witnesses several years ago and was not a part of this religion when we met and started dating a year ago.

For the past year, he has been attending a small group Bible study with me and my friends from church.  However, he still holds onto many of the beliefs he was raised with and in the last six weeks, his friends and family have influenced him to go back to the meetings at the Kingdom Hall. He is now trying to get reinstated and has even asked me to “study” with his mom.  I am scared about what this religion will do to our relationship and I feel like I am losing the man I love.  It is truly a spiritual battle.  He is no longer attending my church’s small group Bible studies and our religious discussions have become more intense.  How can I witness to him about my faith and help him find the truth in Christ without arguing and destroying our relationship?” Continue reading “I’m Dating A Jehovah’s Witness. How Can I Witness to Him?”

My Fiancé Is Studying To Become A Jehovah’s Witness. How Can I Challenge His Decision?

 Marriage and Dating

MY FIANCÉ IS STUDYING TO BECOME A JEHOVAH’S WITNESS. What Questions Can I Ask To Challenge His Decision?

“I am a committed Christian, but my fiancé just started studying to become a Jehovah’s Witness.  The thought of one of my closest loved ones joining this cult scares me.  He has two sisters who are very hypocritical Jehovah’s Witnesses.  What should I do?  What questions should I ask and what should I avoid when talking to him about his choice of religion?

OUR RESPONSE:

Dear Friend,

It is good that you are concerned about the decision your fiancé has made to begin studying with the Jehovah’s Witnesses.  The fact that his sisters are Jehovah’s Witnesses and the fact that he waited until you were committed to marrying him before he started “studying” to join this religion makes us wonder if he had prior experience in this religion and has just been waiting for the right time to bring this religion into your relationship.

Do you know if he was raised as a Jehovah’s Witness?  Was he baptized into the Jehovah’s Witnesses but “disfellowshipped” (kicked out) prior to meeting you?  If his sisters are recent converts and this is his first experience with the Jehovah’s Witnesses, there is a good chance that he simply doesn’t know what he is getting into and you may be able to intervene to help him change his mind. Continue reading “My Fiancé Is Studying To Become A Jehovah’s Witness. How Can I Challenge His Decision?”

My Husband just Converted to the Jehovah’s Witnesses. I feel like our marriage is falling apart. What can I do?

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MY HUSBAND JUST CONVERTED TO THE JEHOVAH’S WITNESSES. I FEEL LIKE OUR MARRIAGE IS FALLING APART. WHAT CAN I DO?

“My husband is in the process of being recruited to the Jehovah’s Witnesses. He started studying the Jehovah’s Witness religion with a female co-worker at his job.  He has been doing these “bible studies” without my knowledge for several months now.

I was shocked when I first discovered this and felt betrayed and blindsided by the news.  He is now refusing to attend church with the kids and me because he thinks that our church isn’t teaching the correct information.  I feel like our marriage is spiraling out of control.  It is heartbreaking to see how ingrained their teachings are in him.  He doesn’t even act like the same person he once was.  He has become so devoted to the Jehovah’s Witnesses that he spends most of his time with them and rarely spends time with us. He was raised in a Christian church, but I’m afraid that he never really got the message there.  I am concerned about our children and the influence he will have on them.  Our children are asking questions as to why daddy isn’t going to church with us anymore. He is open to doing a “bible study” with me, but our discussions about religion always seem to get into heated arguments when I point out the discrepancies in the Jehovah’s Witness teachings.  If I attempt to question anything about it, he turns defensive and treats me like I am an idiot.  The most upsetting part about this is that I went to a Christian college and I have studied these things extensively.  He, on the other hand, has not received any formal education in religion, but yet, he thinks he has it all figured out and that I don’t know what I am talking about. I am hurting and feel like I am causing division for the kids, but I cannot go along with his devotion to the Jehovah’s Witnesses.  Nor do I want my children to be used as pawns between us. I am afraid that next thing he will do is to insist that the kids go with him to the Kingdom Hall. What can I do to protect them? How do I make this work without jeopardizing our kids or hurting our marriage relationship further?  I love my husband but I am at my wits end on what to do next.” Continue reading “My Husband just Converted to the Jehovah’s Witnesses. I feel like our marriage is falling apart. What can I do?”

Help! My Jehovah’s Witness Boyfriend left me to return to the Kingdom Hall

Marriage and Dating

.:MY JEHOVAH’S WITNESS BOYFRIEND LEFT ME TO RETURN TO THE KINGDOM HALL.  I Am Hurt, What Do I Do Now?

“I was dating someone who converted to the Jehovah Witness last year.  He found out later that there were a lot of things that the Kingdom Hall did not explain to him until after he got baptized.  On the side, he was still secretly seeing me and hanging out with me.  Other Jehovah’s Witness at the Hall saw his car over at my place and they reported it to the elder.  Then, the elder got involved and warned him that he needed to break up with me.

He told me privately that he was going to leave the Watchtower organization because he didn’t agree with a lot of the things that were going on there.  So, he asked me to go online and print out information that would prove them wrong.  When I showed him the information that they are a cult, he took it to the elder who spoke with him for 5 hours!  When he came back to talk to me, he had a change of heart and said that he was going to stay with the Kingdom Hall.  He said that the elder explained away everything I told him about and he warned him not to believe everything he reads on the Internet.  He then told him that he needs to get rid of his past which was meI am so hurt how he lead me on all this time, had me thinking that we were going to be together and how he was going to leave the Hall.  So now when I speak with him, he’s cold, brief and very, very short and doesn’t have much to say to me any more.  I am so hurt, I feel like I’ve wasted so much time and had been mislead from all the lies he told me. I don’t know what else to do.” Continue reading “Help! My Jehovah’s Witness Boyfriend left me to return to the Kingdom Hall”

Spying and Stalking in Jehovah’s Witnesses

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“I dated a Jehovah’s Witness for a while and got her pregnant.  I have broken off the relationship, but she continues to manipulate me by threatening that she won’t let me see the child if I seek custody.  Continue reading “Spying and Stalking in Jehovah’s Witnesses”

I’m Studying with Jehovah’s Witnesses. What Do I Need to Know?

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I’ve been studying with Jehovah’s Witnesses and I think what they say makes a lot of sense, but before I get baptized, I want to make sure they are ‘the Truth.’ What do you have to say about them?”

OUR RESPONSE:

Dear friend,

Your desire to critically examine the religion of Jehovah’s Witnesses before becoming involved is commendable. We appreciate the opportunity to share with you some of the research we have compiled and hope you will find it helpful as you determine whether you should get involved with the Watchtower organization. While most individual Jehovah’s Witnesses are nice people, we have found that the Watchtower organization itself is not honest in its presentation of “the Truth.” Not only is the Bible Jehovah’s Witnesses use, the New World Translation (NWT) distorted, but many of the doctrines they teach do not line up with Scripture. (For more information, click examples of Watchtower lies and cover-ups, click errors in the Watchtower NWT, and click here for a list of doctrinal errors) Continue reading “I’m Studying with Jehovah’s Witnesses. What Do I Need to Know?”

Frank – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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.:THE TESTIMONY OF FRANK

My name is Frank and for 13 years I have associated myself with Jehovah’s Witnesses as a Watchtower Publisher (one who distributes Watchtowers and Awakes door-to-door). My mother became ill at an early age and after my parents divorced, I began to rome about the neighborhood. I met Jews, Catholics, whites, blacks, rich, poor and even perverted people. Between 9 and 12 years of age, I was a rebellious child. Since my mother and her friends would speak of “Jehovah” and Watchtower beliefs, I naturally accepted their religion, but I was wrong! Deep down in my heart, I always felt like I was serving man. Jehovah’s Witnesses would teach that Jehovah God didn’t want people to go to college and that a high school education was enough; yet, these same people who were preaching this would send their kids to college. That seem hypocritical to me. Continue reading “Frank – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Brenda – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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I experienced quite a normal, blissful childhood until the age of nine when my mother was visited one day by two Jehovah’s Witnesses.  At first, I thought it was fun to get some attention from “the friends,” as they called themselves.  Since I had grown up on a very isolated farm in rural Pennsylvania, anything new coming our way was welcomed, and they seemed so benign, so polite, so well dressed.

After a while, I realized how much destruction the Watchtower organization could levy.  My mom, a Methodist Sunday school teacher at the time, sat me down very soon after beginning a home “Bible” study with Jehovah’s Witnesses, and in one giant swoop she told me I would have to give up all my holidays, all my friends, my birthday, and all our relatives.  My life up until then revolved around play-time with my cousins from literally sunrise to sunset; so this was quite a devastating change in my young life!  Having no choice to do otherwise, I obliged.  For the next 9 years, I grew up without a single girlfriend and lived a solitary life.  I call it my “nine-year grounding”—despite good behavior. Continue reading “Brenda – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

LB – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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.:LB’S STORY OUT OF THE ANTI-TRUTH “SOCIETY” OF JEHOVAH’S WITNESSES

Because I was a member of the Jehovah’s Witnesses for more than thirty years, I tell you that the quality of my life was destroyed by this sect that claims to be inspired of God.  As a child, born and raised as a Jehovah’s Witness in the 1950s, I remember my parents taking me to meetings three to four times a week. During these meetings, we were supposedly instructed about the Bible.  However, what we really were taught was what the Jehovah’s Witnesses wanted us to believe—that we were the only “true” religion and anyone not associated with us was of the “world.”  We were instructed not to celebrate birthdays, Christmas, or any other holiday.  We were taught that the world was going to end “any day” by a battle of God called, “Armageddon”. We were taught that all the other churches of the world were under Satan’s influence and that their followers would soon be destroyed at Armageddon. Continue reading “LB – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Nancy – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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My involvement as one of Jehovah’s Witnesses came about through my mother who became a Witness when I was very young. My mother is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and this group came along in the door-to-door ministry and professed a more hopeful life for her.  But what this religion really did, over the course of more than 40 years, was to completely divide my family, including my parents who divorced 24 years ago. My mother has four children. The three of us who finally walked away, endured years of my mother’s shunning. Two of my brothers escaped before they considered committing suicide, and I walked away a year and a half after my husband Kurt’s death due to the Watchtower’s policy of not allowing blood transfusions.  My oldest brother nearly committed suicide before separating himself from our entire family. Another one of my brothers has struggled with homosexuality, had been disfellowshipped for it, but has returned to the Watchtower organization and no longer speaks to any of us, and my youngest brother became very depressed and close to suicide before finally leaving the organization. Continue reading “Nancy – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Do Jehovah’s Witnesses Shun Family Members Who Leave?

Jehovah's Witness Shunning and Support

DO JEHOVAH’S WITNESSES SHUN FAMILY MEMBERS WHO LEAVE? — Does the Bible Support the Jehovah’s Witness practice of shunning?

A common trait among cults and destructive religious groups is the practice of “shunning” members who leave (disassociate) or get expelled (disfellowshipped or excommunicated) for wrongdoing. While these groups often assert that the practice of shunning (prohibiting all unnecessary communication with ex-members) is a “loving” form of spiritual punishment, many question the validity of this claim. The Jehovah’s Witnesses have a long history of shunning family members and friends who leave their religion and the carnage this has practice has left behind in the lives of many broken families is irreconcilable as the following statement from an ex-Jehovah’s Witness testifies: Continue reading “Do Jehovah’s Witnesses Shun Family Members Who Leave?”

What You Need to Know to Rescue Your Loved One from Jehovah’s Witnesses

Reaching Loved Ones

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW TO RESCUE YOUR LOVED ONE FROM JEHOVAH’S WITNESSES —How to Open the Closed Mind of a Jehovah’s Witness Friend or Relative

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What You Need To Know To Reach Your Loved One

bullets 1. Jehovah’s Witnesses Are Warned That Satan Will Use Their Non-Jehovah’s Witness Loved Ones To Try To Get Them To Leave The Watchtower.

bullets 2. Jehovah’s Witnesses Are More Concerned About Your “Motives” In Talking To Them Than They Are About The Facts You Present.

bullets 3. Jehovah’s Witnesses Believe That They Alone Have “The Truth” And That Everyone Outside Their Religion Is Deceived By Satan.

bullets 4. Jehovah’s Witnesses Are Programmed To Reject Any Type Of “Critical Thinking” Against Their Religion.

bullets 5. Jehovah’s Witnesses Do Not Trust Your Interpretation Of The Bible Or Their Own Ability To Understand And Interpret The Bible For Themselves.

bullets 6. Jehovah’s Witnesses Are Programmed To Protect The Watchtower’s Reputation At All Times.

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Continue reading “What You Need to Know to Rescue Your Loved One from Jehovah’s Witnesses”

Dialogue 3b: Is the Watchtower Organization a cult? Part 2

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bullets CHRISTIAN CONVERSATIONS WITH JEHOVAH’S WITNESSES—Biblical Answers To Questions Jehovah’s Witnesses Ask

(WDGR LESSON 4: “Who is the Devil?”)

(CONTINUED FROM A PREVIOUS DIALOGUE)

CINDY: Karen, last week, you mentioned that your mom is concerned about the fact that you are studying with Jehovah’s Witnesses because she is afraid that the Watchtower organization is a cult. I showed you the February 15, 1994 issue of The Watchtower in which the Society describes what cults are and proves that Jehovah’s Witnesses are not a cult.

KAREN: Yes, Cindy, you had brought up the fact that the Society states: “Cult leaders are known to use manipulative methods to control the minds of their followers”1. and we had discussed how even though the Watchtower denies using manipulative methods to control the minds of their followers, they control what Jehovah’s Witnesses think and believe by claiming that “independent thinking is evidence of pride.”2. I had asked, if personal judgment of determining Scriptural truth is viewed as pride against God, how can this not be a means of controlling what people believe? Continue reading “Dialogue 3b: Is the Watchtower Organization a cult? Part 2”

Dialogue 3a: Is the Watchtower Organization a cult? Part 1

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(WDGR LESSON 4: “Who is the Devil?”)

Are personal opinions and independent thinking condemned by God? How can Christian unity exist in a religion that allows its members to disagree on spiritual issues? Do true Christians need the guidance of an organization to understand the Bible? What are the mental manipulation techniques of a cult? Continue reading “Dialogue 3a: Is the Watchtower Organization a cult? Part 1”