Tom – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

Uncle Joe: A Christian Family Deals with Sexual Abuse

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My name is Thomas, and I am sorry to say that I am currently serving time in prison for sexual abuse. God has totally forgiven me for this crime, but the damage I have done is irreversible.

I am currently 68 years old. I joined the Jehovah’s Witnesses at age 19, in 1966, with no prior religious knowledge or experience, and remained in the organization until my divorce in 1975. In 1986, my 14-year-old son and I both gave our lives to Christ. Continue reading “Tom – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Preparing Ex-Jehovah’s Witnesses for Child Custody

Anne Marie.:I’M FIGHTING MY JEHOVAH’S WITNESS EX-SPOUSE FOR CHILD CUSTODY. Do You Have Any Literature I Can Present to the Court to Help My Case?

My wife started studying with Jehovah’s Witnesses five years ago and recently left me, taking our children with her. The Jehovah’s Witnesses are not encouraging her to go back to me even though according to their policies, she doesn’t have Scriptural grounds for a divorce because there was no fornication involved. She filed for divorce and is dragging me into a custody battle over our children. Watchtower lawyers are assisting her free of charge while I am spending thousands of dollarswith a lawyer who knows little to nothing of how destructive and deceptive the Jehovah’s Witnesses are. I am worried that if she gains full custody of our children, the Jehovah’s Witness belief system will alienate them from me, just as it did to my now ex-wife.

For example, the other day, my five-year old daughter told me that she is afraid that I will ‘die’ when Armageddon comes because I am not a Jehovah’s Witness. When I asked her where she got this idea, she told me that the people at the Kingdom Hall have been telling her that I am ‘bad’ because I ‘don’t serve Jehovah’ and that only Jehovah’s Witnesses will be ‘saved’ when Jehovah kills all the ‘bad’ people at the end of this system. I am concerned how being exposed to this kind of teaching will affect my relationship with my kids, and I think this religion is indeed a destructive cult. Do you have any literature that I can present to the court to help me show the dangers of this religion and gain legal custody of our children?Continue reading “Preparing Ex-Jehovah’s Witnesses for Child Custody”

Abuse in Jehovah’s Witnesses and How to Forgive

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.:HOW CAN I FORGIVE MY JEHOVAH’S WITNESS FATHER WHO ABUSED ME AND THE ELDERS WHO DID NOTHING ABOUT IT?

“I am emailing you because I have been very angry at the elders from the Jehovah’s Witness congregation I attended when I was growing up. My father was mentally sick and beat and molested us. The elders in the Kingdom Hall did nothing. At 14 years old, I confronted one of the leading elders and asked him why he didn’t do anything about my dad’s abusive behavior. He said: ‘What should I have done about it?’ It’s the same old thing: ‘Let Jehovah take care of it’ which basically means to ignore his behavior and pretend like it didn’t happen. I am now 32 years old and have a hard time not emotionally exploding when the Jehovah’s Witnesses come to my door.  I tell them what happened in my family to let them know that something was horrible in their congregation and justice wasn’t served. I know that I need to ‘forgive’ as I am now a born again believer in Jesus Christ, but I can’t help but become angry that they call me an ‘apostate.’ I have even had to threaten to call the police to get one elder to leave my doorstep after I told him my past and why I left. I am angry at the whole organization. They are sick! Anyway, that is what I am dealing with now.” Continue reading “Abuse in Jehovah’s Witnesses and How to Forgive”

I was abused as a child in Jehovah’s Witnesses. Does Jehovah even care?

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“When I was growing up as a Jehovah’s Witness, I was sexually abused by my father, who was an elder. When it came to light, it was swept under the rug and I was told to leave it in Jehovah’s hands. I waited with the expectation of a child, but nothing ever happened. Justice never came. Does Jehovah even care about my abuse and the long lasting effects I have because of it? As an adult I suffer from depression, eating disorders and serious thoughts of suicide. What kind of a loving God would let this happen to an innocent child? Loving God was the worst mistake of my life!

BerylOUR RESPONSE:

Dear Broken Hearted Friend,

My name is Beryl, and I cannot exaggerate how much I understand your feelings. My heart has spent many years in pain and I have cursed God and shaken my fists at Him in outrage! I have tried two times to take my own life. I know firsthand what hopeless feels like.

If it is alright with you I would like to share a little bit of my story, just enough for you to have absolute confidence that I am not patronizing you or giving you false hope. I am truly speaking from my own life experience. Continue reading “I was abused as a child in Jehovah’s Witnesses. Does Jehovah even care?”

Trish – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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I was a Jehovah’s Witness for 42 years, literally born and raised. My father was baptized when he was young but fell away then came back to the organization when he and my mother started studying again shortly before I was born.  My great-grandmother was one of the 144,000 “anointed ones” (special JW group that goes to heaven) so my background is pretty extensive!

I am the youngest of 5 children. I had a number of cousins who all lived in the same neighborhood, attended the same schools and went to the same Kingdom Hall.  This made it really easy to keep an eye on each other and to “tell” on each other when someone wasn’t following the rules.  Guess who that usually was who reported bad behavior?  No, it wasn’t me!  I was terrified of making waves and having anyone find out I wasn’t who they thought I was. (I had seen what happened to those who didn’t measure up!) It was one of my sisters. She was always challenging the rules and the authority given and sneaking out to be with boys.  They labeled her “crazy” and someone “in need of medication.” Continue reading “Trish – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Pam – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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“The Making of a Missfit – A Princess of the King!”

I was supposed to be the little boy who’d save my parents marriage, but by the time I was born, my dad had moved 2000 miles away and never came back.  My mom remarried when I was 3, but divorced him after 6 months, after discovering he was homosexual.  By then, she was easy prey for her 4 younger sisters who convinced her to join them in becoming Jehovah’s Witnesses.

I loved my mom a lot as a small child, but lost respect for her as I watched her allow this organization to rule our lives, forbidding everything from celebrating birthdays and Christmas to receiving a life-saving blood transfusion.  Every word we were or were not allowed to say was carefully dictated, and constantly changing.  We first called our gatherings “classes,” but later we were ordered to refer to them only as “meetings.”  We were required to know the latest terminology, and it always changed.  The person in charge of the congregation went from being a “Congregation Servant” to an “Overseer” to—I think today—an “Elder.”  We’d been instructed to call them the “Judicial Committee.”   This struck terror in my heart, as I believed they were appointed by Jehovah Himself, Who, I believed, was terribly harsh and demanding. Continue reading “Pam – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Christine – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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.:THE TESTIMONY OF CHRISTINE (David’s wife)

I was born in 1949 in England.  When my mother was pregnant with me; my aunt who was a Jehovah’s Witness convinced my mother to start a “Bible Study” with one of her Jehovah’s Witness friends. The woman who studied with my mother was considered to be one of the “anointed remnant” of the 144,000 1. spoken of in Revelation 7 and 14.  Thus, my mother and father joined Jehovah’s Witnesses before I was even born. Continue reading “Christine – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Ashton – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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I was born and raised as a third generation Jehovah’s Witness.  My biological mother was only 14 years old.  Her father, my grandfather, said he could not raise another baby—especially one without a father—without any help.  He was already a single father trying to raise 3 children alone.  His wife, my grandmother, was institutionalized; so my biological mother was forced to give me up for adoption. Continue reading “Ashton – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Anne Marie – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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.: ANNE MARIE – Disfellowshipped but Saved by Jehovah!

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I was that young and pretty sister you might have seen at the Kingdom Hall. You know, the one with “all those kids.” The one who struggled to raise her children in “The Truth” alone. The one who was rarely considered as “wife material” because she was “damaged goods.” After all, “No one is going to want you and all your burdens!” as it was put to me by a well-meaning pioneer sister.

Like many of you, I was raised from a tender age to be a Jehovah’s Witness. I truly loved Jehovah all my life. I loved my Brothers and Sisters, and I truly believed that IT (the Watchtower Organization) was “THE Truth.” I grew up in San Francisco, during the Vietnam War, the Black Panthers, riots, protests, and the “Hippie” movement, and I became disillusioned with “the truth,” leaving it at age fifteen, since I believed Jehovah God was going to “kill me anyway” because I would never be “good enough.”  Also, I was sick of the gossip, the judgments, and the fear of Armageddon…which was always “just around the corner.” But pregnant with my fourth child at nineteen, (after my children’s father had walked out on us in late 1974), the Jehovah’s Witnesses asked me, “How can you let your children die just because you don’t want to live up to Jehovah’s righteous requirements? Do you REALLY want your children’s blood on your hands?” Continue reading “Anne Marie – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Brenda – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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I experienced quite a normal, blissful childhood until the age of nine when my mother was visited one day by two Jehovah’s Witnesses.  At first, I thought it was fun to get some attention from “the friends,” as they called themselves.  Since I had grown up on a very isolated farm in rural Pennsylvania, anything new coming our way was welcomed, and they seemed so benign, so polite, so well dressed.

After a while, I realized how much destruction the Watchtower organization could levy.  My mom, a Methodist Sunday school teacher at the time, sat me down very soon after beginning a home “Bible” study with Jehovah’s Witnesses, and in one giant swoop she told me I would have to give up all my holidays, all my friends, my birthday, and all our relatives.  My life up until then revolved around play-time with my cousins from literally sunrise to sunset; so this was quite a devastating change in my young life!  Having no choice to do otherwise, I obliged.  For the next 9 years, I grew up without a single girlfriend and lived a solitary life.  I call it my “nine-year grounding”—despite good behavior. Continue reading “Brenda – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Sacha – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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I was born into the Jehovah’s Witness religion.  My father was and still is an elder and actually is serving as the presiding overseer of his congregation.  He has been the cleaning overseer for the District Conventions and Circuit Assemblies since I was a little girl and was in charge of the drama for the 2009 convention entitled, “My brother was dead and has come back to life”.

My mother is a Regular Pioneer and has been since I was little.  My brother is serving where the need is great with his wife in Nicaragua.  I was baptized at age 13 and went to Pioneer School at age 16.  I continued my full-time service after marrying a Bethelite from Patterson.  I would be lying if I said that my childhood was not happy.  During school, I occasionally felt left out around birthday or holiday times, but since I knew nothing except the Witness way of life, I had no idea about what I was truly missing. Continue reading “Sacha – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Shereen – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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I’m a 23 year old mother of two boys. I was raised as a Jehovah’s Witness: Five meetings a week, breakfast bible study, tea bible study, family bible study, weekends spent knocking doors and hours of preparation for the meetings were a normality for me. The amount of daily time we spent “studying the bible” through the Watchtower literature, I can only compare to nuns at a convent.

My father was an “Elder” which meant we rarely saw our dad—let alone spent fun time with him. He would come home from work and eat his meal with us. Then, he’d disappear off to his room to do, yet more religious study and preparation for meetings he would be leading. He rarely did anything in the house for my mother or us.

When I started school, my eyes saw happy, loved children with happy loving parents. It was so opposite to my life. The children would laugh when I said my prayers. They cried and screamed when I told them that they would soon die at Armageddon because they worshipped Satan. (I caused a few problems for my parents for telling that Jehovah’s Witness belief at school.) As a child, my prepared speeches were designed to simulate knocking on the doors of adults, not the doors of 5 to 9 year olds. Some of my teachers were afraid of me because they believed that I as well as my parents was “possessed” by some kind of evil power. Slowly, I learned to be different at school, to hide my family and lifestyle, and slowly, the bullying from my classmates faded. Continue reading “Shereen – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Tressa – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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I was raised in a Catholic family. It was my father who had the greatest impact on my spiritual life. In subtle and sometimes not so subtle ways, he taught me to love God. As a teenager, I remember not being allowed to go to a party without the “clear understanding” that no matter how late I got home, I would attend mass Sunday morning! He always encouraged me to pray and “get to know” God. Continue reading “Tressa – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”

Beryl – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness

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Wow…how do you sum up a life in 3 pages? It would be a challenge for anyone but for a wordy woman like me….doubly so! Then I thought about the Author of my life story and realized that writing a three page testimony is no challenge for Him at all.

You see, for me, even as one of Jehovah’s Witnesses, I always had complete and total trust in Jehovah’s power and faithfulness. When I fell in love with Him at the tender age of seven, He became my world and I couldn’t do or give Him enough of myself and my life. I loved Him, not just the organization. I was also raised that while we were part of the Watchtower, Bible and Tract Society, life was about serving Jehovah, not pleasing man, even in the organization. It never was about Paradise for me or any other benefits I could claim. During the 32 years in the organization, I don’t know how many Jehovah’s Witnesses looked at me like I had lost my mind when I would passionately express the following thought. Continue reading “Beryl – Ex-Jehovah’s Witness”